Leader or follower?

Sean's been told that he'll be able to access the web once a week. This means he can check his email and keep in touch with his girls, the older ones at least, but they'll pass on dad's messages to the little one.

But... There's always a but, funny how that is.

To log in he'll have to answer a question, and it can be a fairly personal one.

Sean blinks at the question that appears on the log in screen, then raises his eyebrows quizzically.

He starts typing...

Does it really matter who leads and who follows?

Shouldn't the real question be: Where are we going and why?

I would neither lead nor follow until I know the where and why.